Living with alcohol is far from girls' dreams when they daydream about their wedding day. It is hard to imagine that a person voluntarily wants to live “happily ever after” with someone who is addicted to alcohol, experiencing aggression or life grievances, cleaning it up, caring for it, feeling disgusted and ashamed of his behavior in front of neighbors, co-workers, friends and relatives. It is not surprising that an alcoholic marriage collapses if nothing can make it overcome his desire to drink. However, there are brave women who fight for the latter for their families, apply various actions to the drunkard, the purpose is the same - so that the husband does not drink, to prevent him from ruining his life (both himself and his relatives) with a destructive addiction to a drinkintoxicating.
Constructive dialogue
The first thing to do is try to persuade him. If the desire to drink is associated with problems outside the family - with work, career, friends, and if alcoholism is not too far away, he can quit easily, after gaining the support of relatives.
Constructive dialogue should be started only after careful preparation and taking into account certain rules:
- you cannot talk to someone until he or she returns to a reasonable situation and is able to understand a reasonable argument;
- you should not try to convince a drunkard while he is experiencing the "joy" of being drunk;
- is undesirable to provoke pity or, conversely, create a scandal for people who drink (even in quiet situations), often attention is desperately needed;
- you can threaten a drunkard, but it is important to prepare for the execution of this threat;
- Before starting a conversation, it is advisable to seek advice from a narcologist so that an alcoholic, if he or she has such a desire, can immediately go to the clinic for treatment.
If the wife manages to prove to the husband who drinks the need to ask for help, to convince her to at least try to change her life, this man will have a chance. This can also be helped by compiling what is called a "motivation list". You can work together to find some reasons why getting rid of alcoholism is not only easy, but also beneficial. For example:
- to win the respect of your children;
- to save money for the purchase or major holiday trip for a month;
- to start learning something new instead of getting drunk or starting a career.
Because everyone can be an individual. You can be motivated for a hobby, for example, playing sports or playing with a car in the garage, the main thing is that he spends all his free time for this and does not drink or be friends. You may need the help of a psychotherapist.
When persuasion is not answered
Conversation, confidence, application - in most cases, this is not enough to awaken the conscience.
It is very rare to prove to a drinker that his lifestyle is destructive, because even if he believes in it, his own strength to fight alcohol dependence may not be enough. Instead, the best medicine is traditional medicine and folk remedies.
Industrial pharmacological drugs are designed to create a feeling of rejection of alcohol in people who drink, it can cause a refusal to drink, appearance, taste and smell. Enough to mix drugs similar to alcohol, add it to food or add to drinks, and if he also drinks vodka or even beer, he will feel bad. Drugs with such effects contain active ingredients (or disulfiram, or cyanamide), which interfere with the normal processing of ethyl alcohol, provoke the accumulation of metabolic products in the blood and, as a consequence, symptoms of intoxication and intoxication persist. And someone who has fallen ill at least once after alcohol poisoning will reject alcohol for a long time. If you add - similar drugs (Esperal tablets, Kolme drops and its analogues) to the drinker, you can make him think twice before taking another dose of alcohol.
Once the drug begins to work, other efforts can be made to convince the alcoholic to undergo treatment by explaining the benefits of treatment at the drug treatment clinic:
- continuous monitoring of health conditions;
- psychological support, very important for relapse prevention;
- qualified assistance with recovery of internal organs damaged by ethyl alcohol abuse.
Hospital treatment under the supervision of a narcologist is the best anti-alcohol therapy, which practically does not fail.
Alternative medicine for drinking alcohol is wiser how to make sick people stop drinking. Folk methods suggest the preparation of decoctions and infusions similar to the official medicine, telling about a truly original medicine:
- green bugs - you can throw 4 bugs into a glass of alcohol causing an unpleasant odor and taste, and thus rejecting the alcohol itself;
- pepper - you can convince a person to stop drinking with the help of tincture (3 drops per 1 liter of alcohol), produced from hot red pepper (crushed, 20 gr. ), filled with alcohol (500 ml), and injected for twoweek;
- birch smoke - you can ask to breathe for smoking birch wood, and then offer alcohol, after which you will get a strong refusal of products containing alcohol.
It is important to understand that treatment without expert supervision, even with traditional methods, even traditional methods, should be done very carefully, otherwise a person may not only dislike drinking and desire not to drink anymore, but also health problemswhich is serious.
The last stage of the struggle
When all methods of struggle are exhausted, there is only one last way: threatening the husband by parting if he does not stop drinking. At the same time, it is important for a drunken wife:
- is ready to meet your threat without much warning (1-2 times will be enough);
- to leave her husband earnestly, not to arouse pity and make her ask for forgiveness;
- do not believe in promises, oaths and tears;
- hurry up and do business - if the house belongs to the drinking husband, you need to take out your belongings if he is not there and leave for a while with the children;
- do not go back to the drunk person until he really proves that he has started treatment.
You cannot return to your alcoholic husband if the situation by going and returning does not arise for the first time: sooner or later he will understand that his wife can not leave him, no matter how drunk he is.
To get rid of alcohol at home, do not let drinking alcohol take an important place in the celebration, to "keep" unfaithful friends away from home. . . . All of this is easier said than done "poisoning" your partner in a way that causes disgust with ethyl alcohol. A positive example is a good reason to give so that no one in the family drinks.